All I can say is that I am in a similar boat. I submitted the application for my wife, in Lahore on 12th Jan. As of yet, we have not heard anything. We've been married for almost 2 months now, and for all but a few days of this we have had to spend it apart, so I know how you feel. All I can suggest...
I am sorry to hear of your loss. I can't imagine what you are going through.
I really can only sympathize as I am not an immigration expert.
Is it possible for you to bring him over on a fiance visa, and then marry him here? I am not sure if the waiting times for fiance visas are any quicker.
Dear All, As a new member, I stumbled across the manual for UK ECOs, which contains guidance for assess each visa application. The full manual can be found here; http://www.ukvisas.gov.uk/servlet/Front?pagename=OpenMarket/Xcelerate/ShowPage&c=Page&cid=1128331898513 I am pasting the section c...