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A couple of more quick items for consideration:
Think about asking for a restraining order or a trespass order against him. Those are American terms for the idea; not sure if they are literally correct under British law.
The thing is, his behavior very directly fits the
profile of a sociopath.
Which gives the opportunity to make the case that he might be suffering from mental illness.
Which gives grounds to keep him out of direct, unsupervised contact with your daughter & grand daughter.
Now, I'm not suggesting that he be denied all access .. but he should have to go through some social services evaluation(s) and have some professionals examine him. This is not revenge .. this is a very legitimate concern and I urge you to think about it. His further contact with your family needs to be carefully regulated, monitored and documented.
If he thinks his life is looking a bit rough, having misjudged what people might be willing to tolerate from him, he sounds like the sort of personality that might just abduct his daughter & attempt to disappear into the UK, the EU, or even back to Albania, if only for a "few years" until he thinks people have forgotten.
Raise these questions with all people you take this story to. Press them for their opinions and advice.
Read through this clinical profile of a typical sociopath and see if there might be some merit to this thought:
http://www.hss.caltech.edu/~mcafee/Bin/sb.html
The best of luck to all of you! Deadbeat parents really ph#!( me off in a BIG way. Living in East Europe for the past several years, I am disgusted by the behavior of the men here and how wretchedly they tend to treat their women.
That mentality needs to be treated like the disease it is.
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