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did you support him in re-entering the UK? Where does he live now? Do you have any formal documentation in joint names (e.g. banks/statements, council statements, bills, etc)?They(immigration) phoned me. I either had to give permission to leave Heathrow, or they would put him in a detention centre, then at some date send him home. I am the only reason he can stay in the UK. His appeal would not be successful, especially as he was previously a failed assylum seeker.
did you support him in re-entering the UK? Where does he live now? Do you have any formal documentation in joint names (e.g. banks/statements, council statements, bills, etc)?[/quotesakura wrote:When was his spouse visa granted? When did he stay in Pakistan (how many months)? How many months in total (giving the dates) did he spend in Pakistan?
At this point:They(immigration) phoned me. I either had to give permission to leave Heathrow, or they would put him in a detention centre, then at some date send him home. I am the only reason he can stay in the UK. His appeal would not be successful, especially as he was previously a failed assylum seeker.
Listen, if you think he is using you for a visa, just let go..simple as that. If you decide to support his Indefinite Leave to Remain application later this year and it is successful, there would be nothing stopping him from bringing his wife over and severing all connections from you. From what you say, he sounds like a real con artist and does not deserve any favours but its up to you to decide whether you want to draw a line in the sand and move on...martha wrote:One thing I didnt mention, is that last October before he went home, he redirected his post to where I am living, only bank statements come for him. They still come here. Perhaps he's trying to be clever for the future, I dont know. But all bills etc for the flat are in my name, also tenancy, as I mentioned before.
then why did you give him permissionmartha wrote: I either had to give permission to leave Heathrow, or they would put him in a detention centre, then at some date send him home. I am the only reason he can stay in the UK.
I know how you feel Martha...I'm truly sorry.martha wrote:johnboy, Salaams thanks for your reply. Having read your story on the link your posted, this goes on far too often. I am absolutely heartbroken by my husbands actions.
I failed to mention in my previous posts , that I had faxed a letter last December, to Islamabad withdrawing my support. At that time I really thought I had finally ended this saga. But when immigration called from Heathrow saying they would detain him, I just couldnt do it.
My husband knows where his bread is buttered, here in the UK.
My nerves are shattered. I've got past all the sleepless nights now. You know how it is. And I cant believe one word he tells me. He told me he's lucky to have 2 wives! I can see why. One gives him freedom to travel, the other lives in his home in Pakistan looking after his mother.
I'm so tired, but somehow I want to believe that he loves me. Yet all the signs are not good. We have lived apart for 9months now, with the occasional visit. I'll have to resolve this soon. It affects my everyday life in many ways. Logically it will never work. Any further advice greatly appreciated.
The signs are not good? You are completely deluding yourself. he is freaking kicking you in the face and spitting on you.martha wrote:johnboy, Salaams thanks for your reply. Having read your story on the link your posted, this goes on far too often. I am absolutely heartbroken by my husbands actions.
I failed to mention in my previous posts , that I had faxed a letter last December, to Islamabad withdrawing my support. At that time I really thought I had finally ended this saga. But when immigration called from Heathrow saying they would detain him, I just couldnt do it.
My husband knows where his bread is buttered, here in the UK.
My nerves are shattered. I've got past all the sleepless nights now. You know how it is. And I cant believe one word he tells me. He told me he's lucky to have 2 wives! I can see why. One gives him freedom to travel, the other lives in his home in Pakistan looking after his mother.
I'm so tired, but somehow I want to believe that he loves me. Yet all the signs are not good. We have lived apart for 9months now, with the occasional visit. I'll have to resolve this soon. It affects my everyday life in many ways. Logically it will never work. Any further advice greatly appreciated.
Hear Hear!!vinay shanthi wrote:is this immigrationboards or the jeremy kyle show online? looks more and more like the latter. especially seeing the link to that lollywood sideshow in the other post which one of the respondents above has given regarding his problems, on the board which drove victoria and many others nuts.
these people deserve what they get, losers still want the abusers (so called) back. not only are they getting screwed. they are screwing hard working tax paying general public as well with their actions. what with getting bankrupt bankrolling fraudsters and bigamists and ending up on benefits. and still they want their so called abusers. who got screwed the tax paying public footing the bill with bancruptcies, supporting benefits these people draw to fund their fraudster spouses, while they are still looking forward to getting laid with the fraudsters. no problems with what they do. but not with the tax payers footing the bill for the escapades by footing benefit bills, AIT bills and all related immigration expenses, waste of police time etc etc etc. it would be better if these jokers made up with their 'better' halves atleast the general public wouldnt (hopefully) have to foot their bill again. everyone lives happily ever after.i felt sorry for them initially but seeing that they still want to get back with their bigamists / fraudsters, why the hell should they get any sympathy, looks like they deserved what the got (or got supposedly)
ps: surprised to see syh having a softer side . thought he/she just cut people to pieces when the didnt do a search or wasted peoples time on the board. time to get mellow i guess
vinay shanthi wrote:is this immigrationboards or the jeremy kyle show online? looks more and more like the latter. especially seeing the link to that lollywood sideshow in the other post which one of the respondents above has given regarding his problems, on the board which drove victoria and many others nuts.
these people deserve what they get, losers still want the abusers (so called) back. not only are they getting screwed. they are screwing hard working tax paying general public as well with their actions. what with getting bankrupt bankrolling fraudsters and bigamists and ending up on benefits. and still they want their so called abusers. who got screwed the tax paying public footing the bill with bancruptcies, supporting benefits these people draw to fund their fraudster spouses, while they are still looking forward to getting laid with the fraudsters. no problems with what they do. but not with the tax payers footing the bill for the escapades by footing benefit bills, AIT bills and all related immigration expenses, waste of police time etc etc etc. it would be better if these jokers made up with their 'better' halves atleast the general public wouldnt (hopefully) have to foot their bill again. everyone lives happily ever after.i felt sorry for them initially but seeing that they still want to get back with their bigamists / fraudsters, why the hell should they get any sympathy, looks like they deserved what the got (or got supposedly)
ps: surprised to see syh having a softer side . thought he/she just cut people to pieces when the didnt do a search or wasted peoples time on the board. time to get mellow i guess
Why does everybody think that a divorce gives you the right to ban the ex-spouse from the country? This is getting a recurring theme, maybe somebody should turn it into a rubbish.Should I decide that divorce is my best option, how can I go about this? Or should I tell the Home Office that next time he returns to Pakistan to visit, that his visa is completely cancelled? If our marriage is over, then I dont want him to stay in the UK with all the benefits and freedom it gives him.
yes you are entitled to benefits like anyone else. but what i was commenting on is the full story and not jjust one bit of it. obviously you yourself suggest that u r in this mess because of this involvement and u yourself have added to the misery. you willingly got his out of detention by willfully keeping the true facts of the case from the immigration officials and contributed to his release from airport. if the officials had know about the bigamy them possibly their decision would have been different. bigamy is illegal in uk. and you made it possible for a offender as per uk laws to evade possible detention by your actions in withholding actual facts of the case when the immigration officials contacted u. so IT IS YOUR fault as well. who pays the price. the tax paying public for all the immigration enquiries, AIT, police work etc etc etc. obviously you are not paying for the expenses. what you do with your own life is your perogative but people should have some sense of civic duty in any law abiding society. you abbetted the entry into uk of a bigamist and abbetted his release at the airport. so it is your fault. i sympathise with your p[roblems but thats different from condoning with holding relavant facts from govt officialsmartha wrote:Thanks for all the replies.
Actually I didnt come here to stir up a hornets nest. I came to ask for practical advice not sympathy, but felt it important to explain the situation. As for me receiving benefits, I have worked hard and paid my due, so I am entitled to these things. He is'nt entitled to anything from the government, so he doesnt get anything. His issues are different to mine on that score. When I am well, then I shall work. But that depends if I need to have this back operation or not. So my emotional worries have no bearing on my health issues.
Some can understand my situtation, because they have experienced similar. And actually I do have a heart when it comes to making decisions. That's just how I am. If you are in any situation, whether its abuse from a partner for example, you cant always see things black or white. Only outsiders can see things differently. I know the statistics on cases such as mine. I agree, many use good people for their own ends regarding ILR for example. But
I dont sit and wallow in my situation. Not at all. I need practical advice from those who can knowingly give it. I dont need anyone to tell me to 'get a life'. But perhaps a solicitor is the best to advise. And it isnt correct to say I deserved these things. Nobody deserves injustice from another. But we do all have choices to make in these situations. Thta's what I am trying to do. I worked hard and was decieved. How is that my fault?
For your information, the immigration know my husband has another wife, They know all the details. His other marriage, which took place after ours, was NOT recognised by British law when I reported him., According to UK law he has the right to appeal, like any other. A law has only just been passed that a 2nd Islamic wife in the UK can now receive the same entitlements to a 1st wife. That is out of my hands. I have a strong sense of civic duty thanks. I uphold the law. I was brought up that way. As i have said, and now it will be clear to all, the authorities know all the details about him, me and his other wife. Please remember that I am his first wife, not his second. The deception came from him, not me., and took place after his visa was granted. So I did not abet him. He kept these details from me. I found out later. The damage has been done, by no fault of my own. I am trying to rectify it. Should I decide to not be his sponsor in October, then have no doubt that I will get him removed for deception or any other illegal act he might or might not have committed. And he knows that. I dont like deception, any shape or form. The one good thing to point out, is that I saved the tax payer the expenses of a detention, which, had he waited for an appeal, could have taken 6months + Whilst he remains here and working in the UK, he is paying his tax like any other here. So I have saved the government thousands already. I might be confused about my situation at present, but I am a conscientious , law abiding British born citizen. I dont like anyone taking the p. out of my government. So I guarantee you that.vinay shanthi wrote:yes you are entitled to benefits like anyone else. but what i was commenting on is the full story and not jjust one bit of it. obviously you yourself suggest that u r in this mess because of this involvement and u yourself have added to the misery. you willingly got his out of detention by willfully keeping the true facts of the case from the immigration officials and contributed to his release from airport. if the officials had know about the bigamy them possibly their decision would have been different. bigamy is illegal in uk. and you made it possible for a offender as per uk laws to evade possible detention by your actions in withholding actual facts of the case when the immigration officials contacted u. so IT IS YOUR fault as well. who pays the price. the tax paying public for all the immigration enquiries, AIT, police work etc etc etc. obviously you are not paying for the expenses. what you do with your own life is your perogative but people should have some sense of civic duty in any law abiding society. you abbetted the entry into uk of a bigamist and abbetted his release at the airport. so it is your fault. i sympathise with your p[roblems but thats different from condoning with holding relavant facts from govt officialsmartha wrote:Thanks for all the replies.
Actually I didnt come here to stir up a hornets nest. I came to ask for practical advice not sympathy, but felt it important to explain the situation. As for me receiving benefits, I have worked hard and paid my due, so I am entitled to these things. He is'nt entitled to anything from the government, so he doesnt get anything. His issues are different to mine on that score. When I am well, then I shall work. But that depends if I need to have this back operation or not. So my emotional worries have no bearing on my health issues.
Some can understand my situtation, because they have experienced similar. And actually I do have a heart when it comes to making decisions. That's just how I am. If you are in any situation, whether its abuse from a partner for example, you cant always see things black or white. Only outsiders can see things differently. I know the statistics on cases such as mine. I agree, many use good people for their own ends regarding ILR for example. But
I dont sit and wallow in my situation. Not at all. I need practical advice from those who can knowingly give it. I dont need anyone to tell me to 'get a life'. But perhaps a solicitor is the best to advise. And it isnt correct to say I deserved these things. Nobody deserves injustice from another. But we do all have choices to make in these situations. Thta's what I am trying to do. I worked hard and was decieved. How is that my fault?