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by Wanderer » Wed May 21, 2008 8:25 pm
1. Is she a real girlfriend or just a penpal at the moment - an important distinction.
2. The problems in a long distance relationship are huge, not least culture, lack of face time, horrendous cost.
3. The above causes the protagonists to 'cut corners' in the relationship, to save money, get a visa, take your time!
4. The expense - oh the expense. Five figures easy. Visas alone two grand, flights, telecalls, presents sent 12,000 miles, 10k? Student visa is a wise move, gives u face time, give her sth out of the deal if it goes tits up. £30k.
5. I tell you this for real, a two week holiday, MSN chats and phone calls isn't a proper relationship, that only comes when you start to get sick of each other - the real test. The 'bags packed' test - u know what that is?
It's a total catch 22 being together, and one person has to make a HUGE sacrifice, you moving there if you can qualify, you paying for a student visa and course, or just putting it down to experience and letting each other go rather than risk a split up after one or the other has uprooted their lives, lost all their friends and become another statistic in a strange country.
My advice is still go for it, easy sure steps, loads of face time first, and don;t make exceptions cos u've spent xxx already or she's here anyway....
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