THO wrote: ↑Mon Jul 26, 2021 3:21 pm
This sounds to me like you could very easily tell the HO that you were made to marry this man, and that you have decided that you can't continue to be forced to live with a man you're not remotely attracted to.
You're seeking an annulment of a "forced marriage" to a man who is only after a way to gain entry into the UK, he is not a genuine person, looking for a long term wife and will leave you as soon as he can without being deported.
Act quickly, as the sooner you start the ball rolling, the sooner you will be able to put this behind you. As for your family and what they want, it's your life and not their life, so you do what you want, forget tradition, you are only on the plant once and owe it to yourself to be happy. If they can't accept it, move on and leave them too.
Do not let yourself be forced to live with him or sleep with him, as the previous poster said.
I never suggest in my post to live with him or to sleep with him. I don't know which tradition you mean but I believe that we MUST keep the good intention with others until something wrong comes up and then we decide what is good for us. From a perspective of a brave woman, a chance in such situation means to check his mind set, is he responsible financially( he's the main provider financially in marriage and also has NO bearing on her money). respect her dignity at all time, willing to communicate and join decision. upbringing children on honesty, love, care, good morals like good intention. marriage is a project where involves children as well( generation) we must teach them noble social skills, help them to achieve a strong personality until they reach adult age. this generation will love parents in health and sickness and if they look after them at old age that because they love them and love to be close to them same applies for neighbours, friends, society.
If you can't bring yourself to bring shame on them, then you've been brainwashed into believing that you owe them something you do not, I'm a parent, and I would never impose who I wanted my child to marry on them, or expect my child to keep in my old age, quite the opposite.
It's a disgrace and a tradition that needs to end.