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by sallyks » Sun Jun 05, 2022 2:47 pm
Hi, earlier this year my dad met a woman 27 years younger than him online and in less than 2 weeks she said she wanted to marry him. The red flags were there from the very start but they include having nothing in common, her falling mysteriously ill and being in hospital whenever she wanted to manipulate him, especially for money, claiming she's being abused at home, saying she's facing the threat of a forced marriage ... you name it, she said it. He sent her more than £1000 via Western Union before he even married her.
My brother and I live with my dad so at first we tried to gently warn him, and he did try to pull out, but she reeled him back in every time. Ultimately he thought he was rescuing her, and she took advantage of his loneliness following the death of my mum two years before.
We managed to talk him into transferring our house to my and my brother's name for our protection (he has since demanded we reverse it!) and he went to Pakistan to 'check her out'. There the locals said she was from a criminal family - her brothers are drug dealers, and she herself is accused of theft and prostitution. But my dad believed none of it and eventually he married her in secret. We have run private investigations so we know the truth, but to this day he has not confessed what he did. He is now back in the UK and I think she has just applied for a spouse visa from Pakistan. There is a lot more, but this long enough already.
I want to report this to immigration but everyone I have spoken to thinks our complaint will be ignored just because we don't have a police record for her. I have drafted a detailed statement (6 pages) annotated with evidence of her behaviour, and a lot other stuff. But recently I also heard that detailed statements and evidence are likely to not be read and only given attention with proof of a criminal record. I don't have that. It was impossible to get because the local police are corrupt. The only thing I have is that during her previous marriage she applied to the UK and they found her application to be suspicious and turned it down (I believe she appealed and it was also rejected).
Is what I have enough? And ... how short or long should my complaint to the Home Office be? I would really appreciate some insight on this. Thanks.