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by SMFK » Fri Aug 16, 2024 5:28 pm
I would like to share my outcome and encourage everyone out there.
I applied for SET DV ILR on 18th of March
Biometric done 4th of April
Email for Additional docs on 16th of July
Documents I submitted originally when I apply for SET DV
My personal statement
Statement from Refuge
DASH Report from Refuge
Incident no/ Log no for police( no Report just lig numbers provided
Proof of Dependent visa ( which had expired)
Proof of address (both me and him)
I got fee waiver ( I had ddvc for 3 months) so didn't pay visa fee
Non Molestation order without fact finding
Additional documents which they requested
Police Report
GP records
Social Services letter
MARRAC letter
Professional DASH Report or letter from independent domestic violence services adviser
Thirty party witness statement ( friend, family or anyone who saw domestic abuse happened)
Additional documents I submitted
On 14th of August
DASH Report from Refuge (edited as there were errors)
Statement from Refuge
Refuge case worker Professional judgment letter
Letter from a adult learning centre confirming I joined a mental health rebuilt programme due to my mental health issues
A sick note from GP for 2 months (June- August) confirming Depression and Anxiety due to Domestic violence
Few debts( water electricity bills) he create purposely under my name and proof of debts
I wasn't reffered to Social services or MARRAC services , so I explained that
I didn't have any third party witness statement as my family lives in Sri Lanka and I was isolated from my friends circle since 2018 and didn't allow me to make new friends either so I explained that
I have requested police and GP Report and was waiting for them and I explained that im waiting for both.
On 15th of August evening I received GP records and I submitted them 15th ( yesterday evening) and this afternoon exactly at 3.10pm I received a call from solicitor saying my visa has been granted and she forwarded the email.
I'm so over the moon. I prayed and praised God. Call my Refuge manager and my refuge case worker and then I call my family, updated on a you tube prayer I'm listening to give the glory to God and here now to share my joy and encouraged everyone out there. I was in UK for last 13 years came as students had lots of refusals almost 10 refusals, was in immigration detention for 2 months in 2017, I was sighing almost 3 years every week even while I'm pregnant. Was in a living together relationship for more than 5 years and visa granted as a dependent where he started to control using my immigration status threatened me to cancel my visa if I work, but I was force to work for his business full time ( I literally worked like a man even after a C-section from 2nd week work on words I was fully working lifting heavy things doing all floral work for his wedding business, and getting maximum of £150 a month that also I have to ask for weeks cry, beg, fight but started my own wreath business on etsy, threatened me to cancel if not threaten to cancel my visa and throw me out if the house. Put all utility bills under my name and never paid them. Didn't allow me to look after my parents.
I thought there's no support available as I have no family in UK he stopped all the friends I had I thought if I go to police he'll cancel my visa as I was depending on him. Also he wasn't physically abusing me so I thought police will not help, doctors will not help. As per me domestic violence is only physical abuse.
But one day I had enough my visa also ran out he refused to renew. Then I decided apply under parent route as I have my 5 year old with me. One day I reached my city building society, and family hub they reffered me to domestic violence services where I end up getting support, they helped me for ddvc while I was in my house, then get to the refuge (my partner was away for 2 weeks that's where I got confidence to go ask for help. I didn't know I can get ilr under domestic violence all I ask them was accommodation and food for my son and help to apply for a new visa under parent route. But by God grace domestic violence services explained me that I can get ilr under domestic violence. I was scared at first as I didn't have any proof as no one to witness or no physical abuse they said still its abuse he's controlling you on everything it's an abuse. As soon as I moved to Refuge my Refuge manager
they helped me with universal credit, leagal aid solicitors, help me with non molestation order, as my partner found out my Refuge and start stalking me he even file a case saying I took my son away I'm using my son to get visa then police came to Refuge and I explained what I went through all these years. They recognised as cohesive control behaviour and ask me to file a case against him. I didn't want to do anything l. All I want was to stay away from abuse live with my son peacefully. The log number they gave only I used as a police proof
All I knew if I live in that household for 1 more year either I'll be psychos or ill suicide. I was facing daily criticism on every single thing I do, name calling, putting me down, blame shifting ,body shaming after pregnancy, let his mother and sister to shout at me, Control me n my son, controlling what I wear, how I talk, who to talk, not to work, so and so. There's was no physical abuse apart from a slap in 2019 but was very controlling
I started to see doctors and explained what i webt through once I moved to Refuge as I didn't know that help is available even if it's only emotional abuse, psychological abuse or financial abuse.
I'm also in talking therapies as I lost my confidence and self esteem due to severe emotional abuse and demeaning behaviour
Now I'm totally free from abuse and visa status I'll take 1 week relax thank God then I'll start looking for work I'm currently working towards my Level 3 Teaching Assistant as I have previous experience I'll choose a good carrier lookafter my son my mom( my dad past away last july) have a beautiful life in UK.
Wish everyone a positive outcome and enjoy the freedom and peace. Keep believing Keep praying, provide documents as much as possible for a good outcome.
I wish everyone who's waiting will get ilr soon. I'll pray for everyone
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God is always Great.
good luck anyways.
