Just an note for all brothers and sisters. I hade a thought not so long ago & i thought id share that with this room/ this is my opinion only, i respect people do have their diffrences of opnion:
mashallah i did alot of leg work in preparing my wifes settlemnt application & tryed my level best 2 make sure ther was no crak in the documents or application because as a man when you take on the responsiblity to marry, you have instantly taken someone'z daughter/sister etc, therefore you should fulfill and complete that obligation effciently and thorougly. Visa application being 1 of many = people did make fun of me that im over paronoid or whatever - fact of the matter is that we should atleast even have the acknowledgment to fulfill this role. Na-owzo-billah if it is refused i can sit back & say i gave it my level best but my yakeen in the Almighty is solid & he has all knowledge i have none, his knowledge is the most superior & all hikmah (wisdome is from him), ALL goodness is from Allah, ALL weakness r from within us , may Allah gave us the tawfeeq & guidance to rectify those weaknesses
We must put our trust in Allah. we must have trust in His concern for
us, and His ability to help us. Allah says: "Put your trust in
Allah, for Allah loves those who put their trust in
Him"[s.3;v.159]
Once the wife arrives we must repect, love & cherish them & inshallah vice versa they will too. Take difficult moments with patience, no doubt they have weaknesses as we do also, we to are not perfect, but DO NOT EVER FOCUS on their weakness too much (unless its a haram weakness obviously),
'"if you take a dislike to them, it may be that you dislike a thing, and Allah
brings about
through it a great deal of good"[s.4;v.19]
we a trialed through good & bad times ,
(15. As for man, when his Lord tries him by giving him honor and bounties, then he says: "My Lord has honored me.'') (16. But when He tries him by straitening his means of life, he says: "My Lord has humiliated me!'') (17. But no! But you treat not the orphans with kindness and generosity!) (18. And urge not one another on the feeding of the Miskin!) (19. And you devour the Turath -- devouring with greed.) (20. And you love wealth with love Jamma (accumalation).) "
[surah 89]
The main thought i have is that look at how much fikr we prepare the cases, then with the anxioty we wait for the reply of our efforts, i thought on the day of judgement we will be accountable for each & every thing we hade done and said - with how much concern do we conduct our daily lives??? How strong is our conciousness or awareness of us being accountable for our actions???
I am waiting for a result from the VAC now & naturalli there is anxiouty, how will i be on the day of judgment when i will be waiting for my reslut of my actions in the world (Duniya)???
Scares me honestli, & inshallah we must implemnt that fear in to action before its tooo late!!
'(21. Nay! When the earth is flatened, Dakkan Dakka.) (22. And your Lord comes with the angels in rows.) (23. And Hell will be brought near that Day. On that Day will man remember, but how will that remembrance avail him) (24. He will say: "Alas! Would that I had sent forth for my life!'') (25. So on that Day none will punish as He will punish.) (26. And none will bind as He will bind.) (27. "O tranquil soul!'') (28. "Come back to your Lord, -- well-pleased and well-pleasing!'') (29. "Enter then among My servants,'') (30. "And enter My Paradise!'')
[Surah 89]
slightly off tangent from the foruum, but just a reminder for me mostly & inshallah & others also#
Best thing to do brothers & sisters is to make SINCERE du'a as its weight is VERY heavy & have FULL trust in what the Almighty does#
"When my servants ask you concerning Me, I am indeed close (to
them): I respond to the prayer of every supplicant when he calls
on Me: let them also, with a will, listen to my call, and
believe in Me: that they may walk in the right
way"[al-Baqarah,v.186].
Jazakullah for reading#
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http://www.jannah.org/sisters/wifee.html
http://www.qtafsir.com/index.php?option ... Itemid=145 ]