HELLO ALL...this is a longish one ...take a seat
Thanks for dropping by
I previously met my partner in Jamaica May 2002.....i went back February 2003 and have been in a serious long distance relationship with him ever since.
i returned to jamaica Sept 2003 and again in january 2004 and September 2004....etc...it goes on....
During theses times we decided to go for a visa so he could come visit me for once.
in Dec 2004 the day David Plunkett resigned.... he was refused a visitors visa at his interview....on the grounds
that he will not return and not enough ties.
The interviewer kept asking him if he is going to the Uk to get married and he kept replying no.... he said she went away and came back and asked again "are you going to the uk to get married..he again said no, (dont know if she was hinting or something) anyway as he wasnt he said no....he was refused.
I wanted him to come over and check out the country see if he liked it and we would take it from there.... he had all intentions to go back home.....i even stated in the letter that i was to return with him for some family business i had to do for my elderly sickly mother ....in 2005 i returned to Jamaica twice to be with him
and on one occassion i took my mother there to meet him...my 2 sons had meet him on a previous trip...
as my mother was there it was ideal for us to get engaged
....we did....
I was thinking of trying for a visa again and a family member of his- his uncle who also lives in the uk..said that we were rushing and things dont work that way and we should wait he will sort it out....he claimed to have diplomatic status and it would be easier if he made the relevant application..ie: get him a job here with his company and sort out the visa issue...well that was a joy to hear as i am currently in reciept of public funds...income support....and live in council housing...when we applied for visit visa i had used an additional sponsor to help our case.
his uncle has returned to the island twice since this time, he last arrived in February 2006 and has been there for almost 6 whole months working on building plans etc....and still nothing said, apart from leave it with me...in march 2006 we rushed and renewed his passport antipating for travel with his uncle on his return ... we have waited patiently until now 2006 july ..uncle due to fly back to the uk early august 2006 only to find out from his uncles best friend that his uncle Mr diplomatic status is infact mentally unstable....(sh*t)
his words to my partner were..."ken has big plans but dont pay him any attention he is not all there he was institualized for 25 years of his life while in the uk...him MAD"......
(sorry if this word offends...its not intentional-forgive me)
Im sure u can guess my reaction when i heard all of that.....**?>L:><?!@#$**!!!
now we have a gap that doesnt look consistant in our relationship as we would have re-applied in 2005...ALL that time wasted....i was wondering if this would look strange in the eyes of the orrible jamaican based visa office
meaning that we didnt try re-apply sooner...what do u think??? Im confused and VERY FEARFUL cant take another rejection..worse if i go for visit visa as i have no rights of appeal..OH ELP!!!
plz help i need words of wisdom here plz....
should we try for a vistors visa..or a fiancee visa....WHAT ??
If so be the case will the fact that i am currently in reciept of public funds go against us? i stated in my invitation that i am aware i am not intitled to addtional funds for him....
since 2003 till now i have been back and forth to visit my partner 9 times.....isn't it only fair that he is allowed to come visit me too...we love each other so much...soulmates.
We are so unhappy and feeling stressed by the milli-second...
as we are
simply two poor people in love. I cant go and live there as my father was murdered while on vacation there and i am still suffering with post traumatic stress...each time i visit ja i am scared to death and very uncomfortable...but i have to keep going or what will become of us....this love is too strong to die...
it would be no problem for my partner to eventually come here to be with me as his children live abroad and his parents are deceased...so he is a loner...working at a craft market. i have my whole family right here in the uk willing to support us both if the need arise.
i am also registered with the sub fertility clinic and after a long stressful wait and many test later my big appointment is near...10days time, and now there will be no sperm to test
ELP i sure need it...
Thank u for your much needed imput in advance ...
Having sleepless nights...STRESSED!