I am not going to address the issue of your relationship, other than to say that marriage can be difficult in times and it is worth doing everything you can to make and keep the relationship good and happy for both of you. Don't give up!
Your wife needs to do these things in the first 5 years:
http://eumovement.wordpress.com/2011/09 ... eed-to-do/ If she is a jobseeker, then she should keep detailed records. And if she is self sufficient, then she should immediately get CSI to cover her until she has resided legally in the UK (which is likely in 2012, assuming she has worked from arriving until now).
The requirements for you are
http://eumovement.wordpress.com/2011/09 ... eed-to-do/ Specifically, a lot depends on that your wife remains legally resident in the UK.