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by Irri » Mon Feb 11, 2013 4:04 pm
I understand what you are both saying.
What constitutes as not living together? If the spouse stays over at a friend's house for a weekend or goes home for a week, is that it? The reality is that it has been on and off with the vast majority being spent living together. So it's not really false evidence.
We have in fact been together for 4 years in a marriage like relationship. Just because we get divorced, it doesn't mean there isn't a marriage like relationship. Marriages are tough enough, but unlike most people, we're not afforded the luxury spending time apart. Being forced together damaged our relationship to a point where divorce is the only option. We have tried for the last year to make it work, but emotions are irrational and powerful.
It doesn't take 18 months to get divorced, but you have to wait until you have been married for a year, then add a few months for it to go through and it quickly gets to 18 months.
I could still cancel the divorce, and guarantee that the relationship fails. It's a very complicated situation, and I'd rather not go into too much detail on an open forum. I'm just wondering if, in the unlikely situation that we decide it was a mistake, do we get a 2nd chance.