Firstly, can I say thank you to anyone who replies to this forum your your help in advance.
Now, if I can explain our situation I hope someone can offer the correct advice about what we need to do.
I am British, my wife of three months is Bulgarian, and she came over last year in December 2006 and we got married in March this year. Everything was fine until we started having problems, mainly because of me (I accept responsibility) as I began to feel unhappy in the relationship and realised that it was not right for both of us.
Obviously, when someone has feelings like this, doubts or whatever, it makes sense to do something and we have tried to work things out but I want to end it.
May I mention at this point that we have not had sex, as she is unable to, as she has a medical condition (which I WAS aware of) and which I thought would not be a problem. But it is and I have tried to deal with and failed. This has a lot to do with the break down of the relationship, but there are other reasons too.
Now we have decided to part. It is a very amicable arrangement and we are both communicating well, (no arguments ect, just sadness)....but what worries me most is that she will have to leave the Uk. I don't think she deserves to and I want to help her to stay here cos she hates Bulgaria so much and loves the UK.
As we are married, there are obvious implications, and I am happy to stay 'married' if needs be to help her out so she can stay.
Am I/are we breaking the law doing this??? As far as I am concerned we are separating, but still married. She is moving out next weekend (20th May) to start an au pair job that I found for her.
Basically, I want to help her and don't feel she should have to return to Bulgaria. She has her work permit, that was granted to her because she was married to me, but now I don't know what is going to happen to her. OK, we can keep it quiet and say that we are seperated, because we will be, and that shouldn't affect anything, (should it?) but I am concerned for her future.
What is the best thing we can do?? What shall I do in the future? Is there a way round this that will enable her stay long term?
Thanks ever so much for taking the time to read it. Any advice much appreciated.
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