I went to Jamaica to visit my fiance for the 10th time since we begun our relationship in 2003.
i returned to the UK in December 2006....feeling unwell, Xmas Eve i done a home pregnancy test which showed a faint blue line...meaning positive...me and my partner my family were over joyed as we have been trying for many years to concieve, all documented as doctor reffered me to sub fertility but they would not examin me without my partner being present, but have stated on paper when he arrives in the uk i should make and apppointment for samples to be gathered from him...all his details are documented....however my 3weeks in JA we did it alone, I was pregnant.
After the festive season ended i went to the doctor who offically tested me....
i was 6 weeks pregnant. I told him i was in some discomfort on my right side and i feared that something was wrong with the baby.
He immediately wrote me a letter and sent me to the hospital...on arrival i was tested for pregnancy hormones which was present...i was then scanned and it was discovered that i was in fact having an ectopic pregnancy...(the baby had implanted and started growing inside my right tube) on further scans there became cause of worry for my life as tube was about to rupture, and an emergency operation was performed there and then...at first i was told 6 hours to operation but on closer examination the operation was brought forward and i was told it was to be done in 20 minutes. they kept asking where is your partner, havent you got anyone who could be here with you. my answer was a frightened tearful no, my partner lives abroad.....
Before the op I managed to squeeze a very distressed phone call using my mobile to my partner in jamaica, who became as upset as me, we were sad angry afraid, mixed emotions. I personally was a nervous wreck...i suffer with anxiety and i felt as if i was losing my mind i was having repetative panick attacks back to back.
After surgery i was told they had to take away my right tube along with the baby, i was sticthed up and discharged the next day 4th Jan with 3 boxes of painkillers without a full explaination.
the last 2 weeks I have been in an emotional state i'm physically and mentally weak.
We also have a provisional booking for our registery office wedding here in the UK in April, i have recieved written confirmation of this from them, My partner needs to come over asap so he can support and comfort me and at the same time give notice,
we are so unhappy...we want to grieve our loss together...
I emailed BHC kingston yesterday asking current settlement waiting times. They replied: The fiancee settlement visa application takes 6 months to process....so what do we do now...
Do u think we have a chance at the marriage visit visa, even though
We were turned down for a visit visa in 2004 because they said: based on probabilities he wouldnt return. and didnt have enough ties..
oh please someone help me...what can i do. the letter i recieved from the registery office states he needs to be here in the next 3 weeks to give notice....i cant think straight... any comments will be appreciated.
THANKS IN ADVANCE.
