iamcompletelymad wrote:askmeplz82 wrote:iamcompletelymad wrote:Hi guys, I got married in jan 2012. Till last year everything was working out fine. Then my wife decided that its not working out anymore and she cant see any future with me.
Really sorry to hear this. I had the same problem back in 2011 after 2 years marriage. My ex decided to leave me. She left me for one of my housemate.
Anyway at first she went to see a lawyer and decided to get divorced but the lawyer told her that if other half ( if i don't agree ) then it will be expensive to go to court and will take ages and she need to pay for everything so she changed her mind. Remember it's very expensive to get divorced here in the UK if one doesn't agree
After that things changed and we became like a friend. it's nearly 5 years after marriage. we are still married , good communication but separated for nearly 3 years.
so as i said talk to her. Work out why it not working . visit relationship advisor. If it's not your fault then i'm sure she will agree.
Thank you so much for your advice dude. She doesn't want to be with me anymore so going to a relationship advisor is out of the question. If she gets mental and reports me to home office that we are still married but not together , will I get a chance to defend myself or will I be asked to leave the country ??
I also wanted to ask if anyone has an idea about the the procedure of divorce. Does it take long if both parties agree and is it necessary for both partners to be here in this country to get divorced? How would i start proceedings of divorce if My partner will be in some other country in a years time ??
Thank you so much all for your help. Any advice would be helpful.
Hi ! the divorce takes around 4 to 6 months if both partners agrees on the terms.Costs £410 right now-just court fees.If you and your wife made the decision to end your marriage you don't have to involve solicitor neither attend the court.Just file for divorce.You don't have to stay in the same country during the divorce.If one spouse doesn't want to divorce there is usually longer required separation period and the divorce will go on the contested docket which also takes longer.
If she goes back to her country,she will be able to file for divorce from there.There is 5 reasons to divorce:adultery,unreasonable behaviour,desertion,2 years separation,5 years separation.In fact,the absence of one part is the easiest way to obtain divorce.I divorced my British husband this way.I was advised by lawyer not to go through adultery route -even though he was cheating on me big time-as its time consuming and not easy to prove,so I left UK for 5 months-we were married for 17 months altogether and I was granted the divorce on the basis of unreasonable behaviour- there is not such a thing in UK divorce law as irreconcilable differences.By my departing I prove that my marriage broke down irretrievably and that was it.
So if you didn't live together for a quiet few months.she could file on this basis and the divorce will be granted.As a woman I would advice to talk to your spouse,try to convince her to help you.Surely you have been good friends prior to marriage.
And about the cost-well I had to have a solicitor involved and in 2008 the divorce process costed me around £1200.So wasn't that much really compares to getting rid of my cheating,drinking husband
