bill40 wrote:no this was before we married she thought with good reason i was a time waster. i have to admit i also had a plan b. the internet is great but until you physically meet someone you can never know if it is right.
i have neither the time or the money to travel to china on a regular basis so if we were wrong i would simply move on as would she. there are always multiple people you chat with on the internet but we chose each other and crave to be together. it felt right the moment we met and it also seemed fate played its hand too.
Qian Li, my wife, is very traditional and has known (in the biblical sense) no man outside marriage.
Hmm, sorry mate but I'd have gone with the ECO based on what you've told us - she seems to be looking for a passport to the West.
Whilst that may not be true, only you and she know, it does seem like that to the outside observer.
So you should really concentrate and providing cast iron proof of the strength of your relationship, and try and bury the negative parts if you can. Would have been better had they not surfaced tho....
With regard to time and money, international dating is freaking costly, and if you couldn't afford it you shouldn't have done it.
I'm guessing you've only met once? If so well I'm sorry that's just plain daft, would you marry a girl from the next street after meeing her once?
MSN chatting doesn't count, that's frivalous crap, even telephone calls are worth little.
Do you speak Chinese? Does she speak English?
Sorry if I seem to be getting at you but folks here know this is my bugbear topic...Bring on the 3k visa for Prospective Partners....
An chéad stad eile Stáisiún Uí Chonghaile....
