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Perhaps you could both go somewhere like Relate to talk through the problems you are having at the moment.Unfortunately, the relationship has been fairly rocky for some time, and now we're suffering through a huge and stressful feud between my parents and his parents which is making our daily arguments even worse.
We rushed into the marriage component, but I still believe in the relationship in and of itself, and believe that we are a valid couple with intentions on staying together. My idea of a trial separation is aimed at helping, not terminating, the relationship.Wanderer wrote:Basically if you're not living as married partners you are technically in breach of your visa and it becomes void. Thereby you should leave to UK but in reality you should be OK till the visa expires, at which point you will need your partners co-operation to remain via ILR. Bear in mind this is a binding legal process, it's not a good idea to apply for ILR with no intention to remain a couple - both parties could suffer by being denied their liberty...
You admit you rushed into this, I think you should be prepared to pay the price. Do you think it's fair to be rewarded with residency?
No anger mate, just realism. I speak as if I was from the HO, a suspicious lot, and I try to view situations as they would, since it's their desicion that matters. It's the one you have to abide with anyway.acrossthemiles wrote:We rushed into the marriage component, but I still believe in the relationship in and of itself, and believe that we are a valid couple with intentions on staying together. My idea of a trial separation is aimed at helping, not terminating, the relationship.Wanderer wrote:Basically if you're not living as married partners you are technically in breach of your visa and it becomes void. Thereby you should leave to UK but in reality you should be OK till the visa expires, at which point you will need your partners co-operation to remain via ILR. Bear in mind this is a binding legal process, it's not a good idea to apply for ILR with no intention to remain a couple - both parties could suffer by being denied their liberty...
You admit you rushed into this, I think you should be prepared to pay the price. Do you think it's fair to be rewarded with residency?
I am also intent on contributing to the British society in the long term through my taxes and also my profession, so I don't personally feel as though I'm "cheating" the system - I really do feel prepared to give back to the country.
Why the anger directed at me?
If you have split up by the time it comes to apply for ILR, just paying taxes will not enable you stay in the UK. There are possibly many millions of people around the world who would be happy to pay a bit of tax in return for ILR in the UK.I am also intent on contributing to the British society in the long term through my taxes and also my profession, so I don't personally feel as though I'm "cheating" the system - I really do feel prepared to give back to the country.
I didn't imply that paying taxes was an automatic entitlement to PR. I just wanted to point out that I actually am committed to contributing to the community and to society at large - and that I'm not just a visa-grubbing selfish expat who only married a guy to get in. We came here intending to build a life together, and I'm doing everything I can to give our relationship a chance. I doubt we'd have much of a chance if I was stuck across the Atlantic.PaperPusher wrote:If you have split up by the time it comes to apply for ILR, just paying taxes will not enable you stay in the UK. There are possibly many millions of people around the world who would be happy to pay a bit of tax in return for ILR in the UK.I am also intent on contributing to the British society in the long term through my taxes and also my profession, so I don't personally feel as though I'm "cheating" the system - I really do feel prepared to give back to the country.
Furthermore, if you travel out of the UK when you are separated, you could be refused entry on your return because of the change in your circumstances.
Thanks for your help and advice.PaperPusher wrote:I'm sorry to hear about your problems.
The relationship must be subsisting at the time you apply for ILR, and you must both intend to continue live together in the future.
It is NOT a good idea to lie on an immigration application, in fact it is a criminal offence and could even land you in prison. It happens that people go to prison, really it does.
Perhaps you could both go somewhere like Relate to talk through the problems you are having at the moment.Unfortunately, the relationship has been fairly rocky for some time, and now we're suffering through a huge and stressful feud between my parents and his parents which is making our daily arguments even worse.
I do wonder about this feud. Are both sets of parents contacting each other? Or are they in fact manipulating you both into arguing and in a sense you are both being used as weapons in someone else's argument.
You could just not talk about your parents with each other for a while! And if you talk to your parents you could politely but firmly decline any attempt to be drawn into their feud with your in-laws!
If the Home Office does find out that you have split up they can curtail (cancel) your visa. You would get a right of appeal against that but if you are not reconciled and have no children I do not see much hope of you winning an appeal.
You could also see if there is a scheme you could apply for in your own right.
Good luck.