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by AC77 » Wed Apr 26, 2006 11:48 pm
Hi,
I have been reading this forum for ages now, but always fail to understand why the hell nobody speaks about it .....
I came to this country a year ago on HSMP, looked for a job and got a decently paying job in a month....thought things gonna turn out pretty well now on.
It's been pretty OK on the professional side, but my social life has been nothing but a nightmare. I never realized, when I was in my home country(India), that this is such an important aspect of our lives. I am tired now.... and believe me guys there's nothing wrong with me. All the first generation DESI guys (and i stress on first generation) have the same feelings.... Everywhere I look, I just see impressions, stereotypes that people nurse about people of, i dare say, COLOUR.
I dare also say, that elusive britishness is still a mystery to me. If you are Indian you'll always be made to feel as an outsider. Whatever I saying could be so obvious to many of you that it goes without saying. But i never expected this before coming to this country. UK was always part of the "developed" world for me. But I guess a developed country doesn't necessarily mean developed minds.
Those of you who think of above as senseless rambling, let me put it most simply. It is damn damn hard to make good friends or build a social circle in this country for coloured people except if you want to go for friends of your colour. Excuse me guys if I sound dearly beloved but I am almost convinced this is a fact of life in this country.
I want to give a message to all Indians queued up for entry into this country....If you can live in parallel worlds, basically socially uncomfortable lives, living in shells, struggling to feel socially relaxed, you're most welcome to this country.
Come guys and live for yourselves !!!